I have to argue a point with what I am sure is a well-meaning columnist who believes in the sanctity of family and thinks that more often than not children should be with their parents. I do as well…up to a point. What is this all about you wonder? Well, an article I read on CNN by Ruben Navarrette Jr. called “Taking Obese Child from Mom is Wrong.”
Is it really? Is it really wrong to say that to a mother whose child is morbidly obese, weighing more than 200 pounds at 8 years old? Well, according to Ruben it is, because he feels that the child protective agency (CPS) overstepped their bounds. They should have done some other form of intervention besides placing the kid in foster care.
But, Ruben and all who may be reading, there is a problem with what that line of thought. He admitted in his article that the state gave this “mom” a full year to get her ass in gear to start feeding her kid with some sense. They gave her the tools such as pediatric input on what and how to feed her child appropriately and instead of following the guidelines SHE MADE THE CHOICE to continue his 4,000 calorie a day junky, eat what you damn well please, garbage can lifestyle.
How the hell is this not abuse? It tells me that she didn’t care enough for the life of her child when the doctors and everyone else informed her of the life threatening issues that were imminent if she failed to help him. And she did just that, FAILED to help him by choosing to continue allowing him this garbage in system she created.
No one would have a problem if this mom were consistently feeding her kid a meager sustenance of 400 calories a day and doctors called CPS and alerted them that a kid was being starved and that health concerns were imminent. But CPS was called when in this case when the “mom” took her son to the emergency room with trouble breathing. That should have told the dingbat that he had some serious issues coming down the road. Wouldn’t Ruben and everyone else say that the mom was neglectful for not allowing her child to eat healthy?
So, why is it okay for this fool to abuse food just as the starvation mom abuses food, to harm her child? Whether you starve them or stuff them, you are doing something with food that has dire medical consequences for the child, all of which are bad with some being particularly life threatening. We are not talking about a case of a couple snack cakes here and there or a cookie before dinner. We are all guilty of that or something similar. Hell, we are talking about a lady who allowed her kid to eat 4,000 calories of food in a day.
Does anyone know what it takes to eat 4,000 calories a day? Most athletes don’t eat that much, save for the swimmer Michael Phelps. And look how he exercises. She was negligent just as much as the starvation mom. She needed her kid taken so that he may have a chance at health. And she still has a chance to get herself together enough to learn the proper way to feed children, herself and her family.
Let’s stop looking the other way on things like this. He would be up in arms if the story wasn’t about the boy being taken for obesity, but being the youngest kid to die of a heart attack due to obesity. No one would say, it was no one’s fault that an 8 year old died due to his cholesterol filled arteries. We all would be beside ourselves with disgust as we all should be now. And allowing anyone to blame it on ignorance is just plain ignorant. There comes a point in time when all of us know that eating ten big macs a week just isn’t a good thing. Consuming two boxes of cereal every morning is ridiculous.
So Ruben’s attempt at sympathy for a stupid mother isn’t going to fly in my book. Just as sympathy for a stupid mother who didn’t realize that reusing dirty diapers was a bio-hazard that would cause flaming diaper rash, or the stupid mother who didn’t think that playing video games instead of feeding her kids was a big problem, would be unthinkable. So should sympathy for this unfit, unhealthy, unthinkably dumb mother.