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Mom Loses Kid for Obesity

I have to argue a point with what I am sure is a well-meaning columnist who believes in the sanctity of family and thinks that more often than not children should be with their parents.  I do as well…up to a point.  What is this all about you wonder?  Well, an article I read on CNN by Ruben Navarrette Jr. called “Taking Obese Child from Mom is Wrong.”

Is it really?  Is it really wrong to say that to a mother whose child is morbidly obese, weighing more than 200 pounds at 8 years old?  Well, according to Ruben it is, because he feels that the child protective agency (CPS) overstepped their bounds.  They should have done some other form of intervention besides placing the kid in foster care.

But, Ruben and all who may be reading, there is a problem with what that line of thought.  He admitted in his article that the state gave this “mom” a full year to get her ass in gear to start feeding her kid with some sense.  They gave her the tools such as pediatric input on what and how to feed her child appropriately and instead of following the guidelines SHE MADE THE CHOICE to continue his 4,000 calorie a day junky, eat what you damn well please, garbage can lifestyle.

How the hell is this not abuse?  It tells me that she didn’t care enough for the life of her child when the doctors and everyone else informed her of the life threatening issues that were imminent if she failed to help him.  And she did just that, FAILED to help him by choosing to continue allowing him this garbage in system she created.

No one would have a problem if this mom were consistently feeding her kid a meager sustenance of 400 calories a day and doctors called CPS and alerted them that a kid was being starved and that health concerns were imminent.  But CPS was called when in this case when the “mom” took her son to the emergency room with trouble breathing.  That should have told the dingbat that he had some serious issues coming down the road.  Wouldn’t Ruben and everyone else say that the mom was neglectful for not allowing her child to eat healthy?

So, why is it okay for this fool to abuse food just as the starvation mom abuses food, to harm her child?  Whether you starve them or stuff them, you are doing something with food that has dire medical consequences for the child, all of which are bad with some being particularly life threatening.  We are not talking about a case of a couple snack cakes here and there or a cookie before dinner.  We are all guilty of that or something similar.  Hell, we are talking about a lady who allowed her kid to eat 4,000 calories of food in a day.

Does anyone know what it takes to eat 4,000 calories a day?  Most athletes don’t eat that much, save for the swimmer Michael Phelps.  And look how he exercises.  She was negligent just as much as the starvation mom.  She needed her kid taken so that he may have a chance at health.  And she still has a chance to get herself together enough to learn the proper way to feed children, herself and her family.

Let’s stop looking the other way on things like this.  He would be up in arms if the story wasn’t about the boy being taken for obesity, but being the youngest kid to die of a heart attack due to obesity.  No one would say, it was no one’s fault that an 8 year old died due to his cholesterol filled arteries.  We all would be beside ourselves with disgust as we all should be now.  And allowing anyone to blame it on ignorance is just plain ignorant.  There comes a point in time when all of us know that eating ten big macs a week just isn’t a good thing.  Consuming two boxes of cereal every morning is ridiculous.

So Ruben’s attempt at sympathy for a stupid mother isn’t going to fly in my book.  Just as sympathy for a stupid mother who didn’t realize that reusing dirty diapers was a bio-hazard that would cause flaming diaper rash, or the stupid mother who didn’t think that playing video games instead of feeding her kids was a big problem, would be unthinkable.  So should sympathy for this unfit, unhealthy, unthinkably dumb mother.

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Blacks Fall Through The Foster Care Cracks More Often

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Even though children suffer from abuse and neglect equally regardless of race the amount of black children who enter foster care never to be reunited with family nor find permanent homes is much higher than that of white families. Should anyone be surprised by this, of course not, it is the same phenomenon that puts ten times more black men and women in prisons than their white counterparts; which is to break up the black family unit. But I guess we can’t complain too much since not enough of us are standing by to help these families regroup, nor are we becoming the foster parents that we should.

According to the Washington Times, in its report on “African American Children in Foster Care,” the GAO said that in 2004, black children accounted for 162,911, or 34 percent, of the 482,541 children in state care. This is double the proportion of black children in the general child population, the GAO said.

To explain this “racial disproportionality,” the GAO checked to see whether there was more abuse and neglect in black families, but the federal National Incidence Study of Child Abuse and Neglect showed that children of all races and ethnicities are equally likely to be abused or neglected. So unfortunately there is no excuse.

The GAO has admitted that there “may” be some bias in due to poverty and race. The question the GAO needs to answer is not why so many black children enter the system; it should be why they aren’t working as hard to get the black families back together like they obviously do for the white families. They are also claiming that the children were placed with relatives of the child’s for foster care. That these families were refusing to adopt the kids or become permanent guardians because, “these people didn’t want to give up the kinship care subsidy. So basically they are saying that they couldn’t help these children and families because of money hungry relatives. So they are now saying that this subsidized guardianship will help them “move” black kids from foster care, because these black families won’t have to forfeit any of the stipend money.

So instead of focusing on the problem that gets black children into the system to system in the first place, lets focus on some negative aspect of the foster “families” and run with that to solve things. Let’s focus on fixing the problems in the black community such as lack of employment, low income, inadequate education, housing and crime which is generally the root of these very same problems. If we were to expend this wasted energy being put into trying to find ways to keep black kids IN foster care, and use it on the things listed above, very small amounts of black children would be in need of foster care. Why not discontinue placing band-aids over deep gashes and actually repair them like we would if those gashes were slashed into the body of a white child.

 

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Biological Mom Jailed

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A biological mother with a severe case of “givers remorse” and two others staged a home invasion on the family who adopted the child she gave up. The mother and adoptive family are currently going through a messy custody battle. The biological mother named Jamie Kiefer along with an unidentified man and woman drove from Alabama to Itawamba County, near the Tennessee and Alabama lines. They broke into the home of Matt, and Jennifer Erickson which they share with their two children one of which is 5 month old baby girl Madison the object of the custody battle. The parents were tied up and the baby taken back across state lines to Fort Bragg where they hid out with a friend named Amanda Bell. When they raided Ms. Bells home they found baby Madison, Kiefer and her 5 year old son, her sister Rikki Swan with her 6 and 11 year old children. Both Jamie Kiefer and her sister Rikki Swan were arrested, but Ms. Bell was not thought to be a part of the crimes.

I do believe that once you have given your child up for adoption, you are pretty much through. You should have no rights to sue for custody or for visitation period. If the new family wishes to extend visitation to you that is up to them. Jamie Kiefer for whatever reason, other than duress, gave up her daughter, she made her decision, and she should have lived with it. What gives Jamie Kiefer the right to have her cake and eat it too? She could not take care of the child for whatever reason and gave her up, the Erickson’s took care of the child for the last 5 months and now that she feels able, she wants to reclaim her.

This type of case is so irritating, just the stupidity of the biological mother to do something like this. I feel for her I really do, I have two kids of my own and couldn’t possibly imagine not having either of them in my life. But, does she really think that by kidnapping the baby, she would be able to keep her and would never be found out. All she has done is ensured herself the fact that she will never have her baby and probably not her freedom for a long, long time. This tells me that maybe she doesn’t need kids at all since she is so irresponsible. Also, the sister who is being charged as an accomplice is just as irresponsible and she has just condemned her two children as well. Her husband is currently serving in Afghanistan along with Ms. Bell who said that is how she met Rikki Swan. Ms. Swan’s oldest child has been handed over to Child Services and her youngest is with family. Now she is in the same shape as her sister losing her own kids to help in a crime that was ridiculous from the word go.

People need to start thinking of all the consequences of actions they plan to take, before they actually take them. These to foolish buffoons probably didn’t think at all. They just did whatever they felt was going to work at this time. This seems to be the era we live in right now, people don’t have to show any responsibility when there are too many other things or people too blame.

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